Thursday, September 29, 2011

There are no more white horses or pretty ladies at my door.

I was thinking about my relationships and connections with the important people in my life.  Now that I am getting older, I began to think about the people in my past that I have lost touch with.  I still think back on the best times of my life and the people that made those times so memorable.  As George Jung put it, "So in the end, was it worth it? Jesus Christ. How irreparably changed my life has become. It's always the last day of summer and I've been left out in the cold with no door to get back in. I'll grant you I've had more than my share of poignant moments. Life passes most people by while they're making grand plans for it. Throughout my lifetime, I've left pieces of my heart here and there. And now, there's almost not enough to stay alive. But I force a smile, knowing that my ambition far exceeded my talent. There are no more white horses or pretty ladies at my door."
I think about that quote a lot.  So, I wanted to make a suggestion to anyone who might read this.  Life is too short to hold grudges or be stubborn.  You will regret it.  Take chances, make mistakes, don't be afraid to leave pieces of your heart here and there.  Most importantly, if there is someone from your past that made your world great, pick up the phone. Especially, those people that you had a falling out with. Bonus points if it's someone you were in a relationship with or in love with.  You don't have to be best friends again, but keep in touch with them.  Just send them a text message that says something like "Hey, this is ________________. I just wanted you to know that I am sorry we ever lost touch. I miss you and would love to hear from you."
I promise that you will be happy you did it.  And so will they.
If you are brave enough to take on the challenge, I would love to hear what role they played in your life and the response you receive. 


  1. After getting out of high school, memories come back harsh sometimes. I started remembering my old crush from middle/high school, and I kinda chuckled that my current girlfriend is very similar to her at least physically. Personality wise they're totally different. Well at least people have facebook now (most anyway) so we can at least see what some our old chums were up to after all these years.

  2. Pretty depressing update but it's all very true man so I don't know what I can say about it. Keep your head up. It's a good idea to message these guys. I think that I'll do it and see how it goes, can only lead to good things.

  3. Sorry guys. I didn't mean for this to be depressing. It is motivating to me. I have recently reconnected with some people from my past and have rekindled some great friendships. I just hoped this might do the same for some of you. I am really happy that I made the first step to reach out to some of them.

  4. hoop ooted i understood you. (they didn't even read the whole post heheh) nice post
    + follow

  5. Thanks Maybe you. Lately, I've seen the importance in not burning bridges. You never know when you will need to turn back and cross. Here's an easier way to figure out who you should reach out to. Think about the happiest time of your life or find a picture of you from that time. Who is in the picture? Who comes to mind? Those are the people that have forever changed your life.